Connection, communication, and vulnerability. Having important conversations, especially with someone we have an intimate relationship with, can get emotions churning and escalate. So many positive relational changes are possible when learning ways of connecting and communicating with those we love.

Many of the couples I work with with consistently share that they love each but that they are sick of having the “same fight” over and over. So many couples  get in a pattern and it doesn’t matter if the content is about the grocery list, financial spending, or desire for more intimacy, partners get stuck in their reactive positions … And there they go again! In couples therapy we work to change stuck patterns by looking at the emotions below interactions. We slow down interactions to learn new ways to give voice to relational needs and to connect even in moments of disagreement.